Insecurity In Relationships

Almost everyone treat jealousy as a sign of affection of a loved one, while actually, it isn’t.  It’s a sign of insecurity in relationships.

Why do we get jealous in the first place? It’s because we fear that our loved one will leave us and choose another.  That he had enough of you but you’re still not good enough for him.  And there are other reasons for insecurity in relationships that may be any of the following factors:

Lack of self confidence or self-esteem – Your partner may have flaws or incapacity that make her feel as an inadequate person.  She might not see the beauty on her own way. Again, nobody’s perfect, everyone has its own flaws. And this is one reality that you have to remind your partner with.

A bad track record of infidelity – Your partner may have known that you used to be a polygamous guy. Well, you can’t blame her for that, especially if she’s still seeing you glancing on other girls and have caught you doing things behind her back.

A lot of pretty faces – This universe can sometimes be heavenly when you see a lot of gorgeous men and women walking down the streets.  You can’t help but think, “Am I with the wrong one?” .
Some people seem to live by the mantra of “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”.  This can cause confusion in a relationship especially if you are in a long distance relationship or one where you work different shifts and don’t get a lot of time to be together.

To lessen your insecurity in relationships, you could try to make yourself look better, be a little bit vain. Learn to pamper and care for yourself more than you used to. If your partner sees people looking admiringly at you then they are going to realize they have to toe the line or they could get kicked to the touch line.

And most importantly, get rid of that negative perception you have of yourself. You are special, otherwise your partner wouldn’t have picked you in the first place.

When you feel good inside and out, you can face your lover with confidence and conviction that he would never have to leave your side.  It would also help if your partner can give a reassuring feeling by showing that he is truly committed to you and to the relationship.

Jealousy in a relationship will almost certainly destroy it little by little, when we were all teenagers it seemed normal to want to hold our boyfriend or girlfriend very close. You are taught from a young age to guard precious things and keep them close to you.

As you get older and your emotions mature then you can give your loved ones the freedome they need to grow. This shows maturity and if you grow together then there is no need for any insecurity.

A long distance relationship is one kind of relationship that is quite hard to maintain. Some don’t even believe that it is possible to keep a relationship healthy if you are having to conduct it over huge distances.  In reality, only a few have managed to survive the stress and strains that are involved.

Being in this kind of relationship can be lonesome and frustrating at times.  He’s not there to share your winning moments, can’t be there to visit you when you’re unwell and will not be able to be there in times when you need a hug and comfort.  It’s like being in a relationship with a lover that doesn’t exist.

Which of course some people will joke about as he is unable to attend all your family events and won’t be there to visit with your friends most of the time.

If you really want to achieve something then you really have to work hard to get what you want. This applies to relationships as much as anything else, in fact when you are in a relationship that is being conducted over thousands of miles you will almost certainly have to work harder than others do.

Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

Here is some advice on how to make a long distance relationship work:

Have constant communication. Keep in touch as often as possible. Make a call rather than send an email. Frequent talk can fill up your lacking time together.  If you are discussing all the boring little details of your day it can make your partner feel included.
Always update each other on what’s happening in your daily life, tell the story in a fun and loving way as if he could see and feel the people around him.  Make the conversation lively and avoid statements that would upset or make him worry unnecessarily.

Have some degree of loyalty. Both of you might be easily drawn to temptation especially when you don’t feel the warm embrace of a loved one.  If you really love each other then you have to avoid situations or people that might lead you to infidelity. If you work in a young office, then by all means go out for a drink with them all but be careful not to get drunk when you are surrounded by people who you already have a relationship with.
Many relationships are ruined by workplace affairs, take precautions not to become a statistic.

Take time to see each other. Regardless if he is in the Arctic and you’re in the Pacific, no continent should be a boundary if you truly want to see each other.  File a vacation form with your boss or take a time out from your business.  Yes it will take time and cost money but nothing could ever equate to happiness of finally seeing the one you loved and missed for so long.

Embrace Technology. Skype is a free phone system that allows both voice and video calls, it is free and can be installed on just about any pc or laptop. Even a webcam can cost as little as a pizza, hearing the one you love is great but seeing them as well really does add another dimension to it.

The main secret in how to make a long distance relationship work is effort, if you can not put the effort in to arrange times to call each other or to buy a webcam the you really do not want the relationship to work and you should be honest about that with your partner.