I met this guy from Holland (two hours away by plane) about two years ago. We always had a huge attraction but that was it. We are both members of the a youth organisation in Europe, so we kept on meeting several times during different events all over Europe. Until we fell in love about 4 months ago.I think that noone has ever loved me that much, i’ve never been treated so much like a princess. I love him to bits, we’re both sure about our feelings.

But we can’t move together yet, we still have to finish our studies and that will take about 3 years (unless we can make it sooner). We are seeing each other once a month, which is more or less ok, even if sometimes I freak out and wonder if we’re gonna make it through -like right now!-. Is it possible to survive it for such a long time? We’re willing to do anything, we really think it’s worth fighting for what we have, it’s the most beautiful thing that i’ve had in my life. I wouldn’t want to lose it

I just found out today that my booyfriend is still on several dating sites, all of which show that he has been on that certain website that very day ! What am I supposed to do ? I deactivated/deleted all my account of this nature right in front of him. I asked him about it and his reaction was that he was very angry about me questioning him about it and now has not respnded to any emails or texts which I sent him earlier this afternoon. It has been 4 hours and I’m at a loss….

I was…well I am dating this man. We live two in a half hours away. We have been together One year and five months. It was the perfect relationship to start off with. He said he wanted to marry me, my family loved him…and it’s very difficult for my family to approve of anybody. SO I was on cloud nine. He said he was only four years older than I am.

He came up to see me every other weekend…and then it start to become every weekend…he even went on family vacation with me. Seven months into the relationship, I get an email on facebook. This person told me to open my eyes, he’s not who he says he is. He is older than me has a daughter my age and a little boy. I questioned him over and over, he said it wasn’t true. But then I told him some things about previous relationships and I told him that he just needed to be honest with me. Well, my nightmare was true.

He is 22 years older than me (and yes he looks pretty darn good for his age) he lied about his last name so I couldn’t look him up on the internet. He was married, not separated, still living with this woman, and had a little boy with her. I was devistated. My world as I knew it was over. We didn’t talk for about a month and I told him to be with his wife and work things out. He came to me and he showed me his divorce papers that were filed. He told me he loved me and he wanted to be with me.

too old for me

He doesn’t seem to miss me like I miss him. His divorce isn’t over yet. It’s been sicne June 2010 since he filed. And he’s struggling with custody issues and he is under a lot of stress. I want to be there for him. I want to take the stress away. I want to make him happy. But I’m finding it hard to do. We are going to have to go for a 3 week stretch without seeing each other…and it’s breaking my heart. I’m trying to figure out how I can get to see him. His response is…well babe there’s gonna be times where we’re gonna have to be apart. When he says that I feel like he doesn’t ever really miss me.

So I told him…that my missing him isn’t just a wanting him type of feeling its…I need him. I told him I’m so happy when I’m with him. I told him that I feel like him missing me…is only a him wanting me…that he doesn’t miss me because he needs me. And he didn’t have any response to that. He didn’t say anything at all. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much. He makes me so happy on Saturdays. And Sundays – Fridays I’m just so lonely and depressed without him. I don’t have any friends to turn to…to go hang out with…all I have is him…and I feel like I’m hanging on by a thread with him. I feel like he’s letting go. He says he’s not. He says if he didn’t want to be with me then he wouldn’t. But I’m scared because all I truly have is him.

I am at a stand still on what to do next.

I am in a one year relationship with a great guy, and everything was good until 2 weeks ago. Admittedly, I have been stressed and snippy with him. But, so has he. I just chalked it up to a high stress time. Well, last week, we started drifting apart. Not seeing each other as much, not having sex in 9 days,etc..

This is my dilemma. He gave me his FB password telling me I have nothing to hide 6 months ago. Something in my gut said to check it, which I have never did before. Well low and behold, I find 4 emails to 3 if his plutonic girlfriends saying that “he loves me” and “we r good” but will “loose me if I can’t handle his talking to other girl friends”.

I cried for hours as I felt betrayed and felt very disposable. Yesterday, I told him I felt something is off between us. I didnt tell him i read his email, but tried going around the bush to get the answers that i needed. He told me he loved me, wasn’t going anywhere and that we are both stressed out, but we are fine. I was ok with it last night, but today I looked again. He said to another girlfriend that he refused to move in now, but is happy. Later tonight I checked again, because while on the phone I heard him typing and asked and said he was FB a message.

What Do I Do Next

So now, of course I went into it again. Found he wrote another girl friend that now going spend some “me” time away when he doesn’t have his girls. So now I don’t get it. I said last night, if he wanted space, take it. But he told me to my face he didn’t want that, and now I read that he does. I am confused. He says he loves me and wants to be with me, but then I read this, and I question everything.

• Am I being used?
•  Am I getting cheated on?
• Do I even confront him?
• Should I be worried?

I really don’t know what to do. I love him very much and want to make it work, but I am very confused by the conflicting conversation we had and what he saying to his friends about us behind my back. He hasnt changed his password or deleted the messages, so I wonder if it’s innocent venting stress or something I should confront him on and be done…please help!!!

One of the things you can do is find a blog that contains divorce advice that can help you. The blog can be useful because it will have many different kinds of advice for many different situations. You will see that there may be other people who can post and talk about their own situations. This can be a great way to figure out what to do because you can use the experiences of other people to help you in your search for the next move you are going to make.

Another thing you can do is find a therapist to talk to without telling your spouse that you are considering the prospect of ending your marriage. You can explain to your therapist your reasons for divorce, and see if they think that you are on the right track. They may help you fix these issues within yourself so that you do not need to go through with the divorce itself. Or they may give you the strength to finally put your foot down and stick with your decision.

If you rush your choices too much, this could end up being quite problematic. You want to make sure that you are making the right choices from the beginning. One of the ways to do this is to find as much divorce advice as you can so that you do not make the incorrect choice or act too soon. You should talk to plenty of friends before you make a final choice and talk to a therapist as well if you possibly can.

The most important thing to do is realize that getting a divorce can be a very hard and difficult thing to do; but it is not impossible. You will have to fill out many different divorce forms before you can really actualize the process. You should always have someone to work with who can help assure you that you are making the right choice and who can also help you fill out the forms correctly. As long as you are sure you are making the right choice, you will be much happier in the end.

When you want to fill out the divorce papers, you should realize that it’s a great idea to wait a little while. You want to thoroughly assess your reasons for divorce before you finalize any decisions.

This guy in college made eye contact every time we pass by each other & he smiles at me sometimes.once he gave me a very wide smile thinking I was smiling at him & his friend asked him to talk to me but he didn’t.

One day an other friend of that guy was telling it to his group that i have beautiful eyes this guy was there & he immediately interfered saying I was his(i’m senior to the guy who said i have beautiful eyes) senior.After that I heard them tease him when I walk by but that was only once & they started staring at me.

Because this guy never spoke to me I stopped looking at him.but then he started to try & make eye contact.he started to come in the same bus for some days & tried to touch me a few times but not in a bad way(just over my head maybe to make me look at him).& once I thought I saw him ask his friend(my classmate)to introduce him to me but my classmate didn’t.

towards the end when our course was ending i saw him come towards me to talk but suddenly went in different direction and the next day when i was leaving he was standing opposite looking at me smiling and when i looked in different direction he moved a bit away.

Now even after nearly a year has passed since finishing the college i sometimes wonder about it.could he still like me?

Very basically, I met this girl about 3 or 4 months ago, she is 30 and I am 29, but she has a boyfriend, he is 23. They have been together for about 1 year and have broken up 4 times already in the past, he is in Australia and we are in New Zealand, in about 2 weeks from today she will go back to her home country where her boyfriend will meet up with her there also, she will be there for about 1 month or so.

She has already admitted to me that she will definitely not marry him, but does not want to break up just yet as she wants to see him face to face first. She then might come back to New Zealand after the trip back home. We have been seeing each other quite frequently and have also slept together many times. Feelings are mutual and we are very comfortable together and enjoy our time together, she says that every time she sees me, she wants to go out and do something together, she also said that the first time she saw me that she felt comfortable and that she felt that the already knew me, we like to do the same things together ( i.e. we love to drink and be merry) and can be quite happy if not for this “boyfriend” situation.

So basically, she feels very guilty to her boyfriend every time we do something together or have sex etc, and of course these feelings are expected, but inevitably does cause arguments between us both (big ones, i.e. she hears gossip from coworkers about our relationship, that we are together and that we have slept together etc, and they know that she has a boyfriend) so this has made her feel that her friends might think the is a slag or just that she doesn’t want to look like one, even though we both cant help our feelings for each other, results in MASSIVE arguments and even ignoring me, taking me off her Facebook, not answering calls and texts etc as she says that her friends got the information from ME! Which is not entirely true, so she decided that we should remain friends in the meantime until she gets back, I agreed with her.

But as fate would have it, she calls me at home at 4am in the morning (drunk) and says she needed someone to talk to, she has done this on several occasions. Another thing that causes arguments between us is the fact that we behave and treat each other as if we are a couple when we are actually not, this also puts pressure on her, which is another reason why she wanted to be friends in the meantime.

We made up 2 days ago and I texted her after I got home but she never replied, which was very strange, she then replied that she had heard again from people that they know about us and she cant take it anymore and wants me to leave her alone now, out of shock, I drove down to her place and asked her to come out to talk about it, after a long text argument, she finally came down and we spoke in my car, but she had to leave before we could finish, she just got out the car and before she could close the door, I said, “can we finish talking about this later?” and her reply was, “not today” (in a soft voice), I just nodded my head with a slight sad look, but understanding. she then closed the door walked around the car to walk away from me, but then suddenly turned around and came at me with a hug through the window, she said softly in my ear, “I just want to be alone now” and started to walk away again.

I then said to her, “what does that mean?” She said that it means that she just wants to be alone for a while, I said OK. She left and I drove off. When I got home I sent her a small text saying that,” Everybody knows that you are a good girl, and that is a fact! Lets avoid this subject with other people in the future. I will be thinking of you…” And that’s it! So basically I understand what I want to be alone means but, I am concerned that she is going to leave me, because I really want things to work out between us, what are my chances here? What do I do besides waiting for her to talk to me again? SOMEONE, ANYONE, HELP!!!!!! Comments and advice from experienced people would be great!!

Note: I think it seems that she also may have a problem dealing with being friends, even though it was her idea, because she does have feelings for me and causes arguments because of her situation ( she has a boyfriend) and acting like boyfriend and girlfriend to each other causes problems (even though she is not mine and I am not hers) She has already said to me that she feels and can notice that I am not showing everything about myself to her and she wants to know me more, but I told her, because she is not my girlfriend, there are things that i cannot show her as much as would love to, but I still respect her boyfriend, her and their relationship, good or bad. I told her, if you were my girlfriend, then I can show you everything, but for now, I cannot

Moreover he also left HOOKAH when i told him not to have it anymore, its not good for your health. He was addicted to hookah. (all it happened after our break-up) He knows that i want him so badly. He too dedicated a song “main laut aaunga” which means that he’ll return to me. But how can i be so sure of that. He said this to me 2 months back. He is still with his new girlfriend.

He is very flirty type. I feel miserable. I really don’t know what to do next. Please suggest me the moves

But for the past week and half he hasnt been in contact with me all that much i go on skype..hes not on, i text him, he doesnt text me back. but he will have time to play an online game or 2 and then he will text me back saying hes taking a break from studying. my question is is he just trying to say in his own way i dont want to be with you anymore?…or is he just busy and takes breaks on occasion, and im overreacting? its just that not hearing from him or not getting any feedback is driving me nuts! and to me it seems like he doesnt care for my feeling either. i would deff would like a respond asap cause i dont know what to think. i get mixed messages. my gut teels me hes busy, but my mind tells me hes blowing me off.

When i first got here everything was going really smooth, we called and talked very often, skype every weekend, and a good amount of texting. i bought the means of talking to her so she wasn’t outrageously charged for any of those services. Now i’m a half year year into my overseas deployment and she never calls, writes, texts, or acknowledges that she is even getting my messages through any means.

I talked to her a few weeks ago and told her that i didn’t like not talking to her for extended periods of time and that if she was busy that a text or email would suffice,and she apologized for getting me concerned and that she was just really busy with school and her computer had a virus.

Once again I haven’t heard from her. As much as I love her, I don’t think i should have to put myself through all this stress. Also i’ve been denying it, but it seems to be a sign that she lost interest. So what do you think?