Is He To Old For Me?

I was…well I am dating this man. We live two in a half hours away. We have been together One year and five months. It was the perfect relationship to start off with. He said he wanted to marry me, my family loved him…and it’s very difficult for my family to approve of anybody. SO I was on cloud nine. He said he was only four years older than I am.

He came up to see me every other weekend…and then it start to become every weekend…he even went on family vacation with me. Seven months into the relationship, I get an email on facebook. This person told me to open my eyes, he’s not who he says he is. He is older than me has a daughter my age and a little boy. I questioned him over and over, he said it wasn’t true. But then I told him some things about previous relationships and I told him that he just needed to be honest with me. Well, my nightmare was true.

He is 22 years older than me (and yes he looks pretty darn good for his age) he lied about his last name so I couldn’t look him up on the internet. He was married, not separated, still living with this woman, and had a little boy with her. I was devistated. My world as I knew it was over. We didn’t talk for about a month and I told him to be with his wife and work things out. He came to me and he showed me his divorce papers that were filed. He told me he loved me and he wanted to be with me.

Because he has been the only man that has ever treated me so well, and I wasn’t happy with anyone except him…I accepted him back. My family hates him. He’s not allowed over my families house anymore. But when we are together I am so happy. Our personalities are so similar and I never laugh and smile as much as when I’m with him.
But now lately…I only get to see him on Saturdays and Sunday mornings. Monday through Friday is a nightmare to me. I am so lonely. I”m not happy in life except for when I’m with him. I work full time and I go full time to college.

He doesn’t seem to miss me like I miss him. His divorce isn’t over yet. It’s been sicne June 2010 since he filed. And he’s struggling with custody issues and he is under a lot of stress. I want to be there for him. I want to take the stress away. I want to make him happy. But I’m finding it hard to do. We are going to have to go for a 3 week stretch without seeing each other…and it’s breaking my heart. I’m trying to figure out how I can get to see him. His response is…well babe there’s gonna be times where we’re gonna have to be apart. When he says that I feel like he doesn’t ever really miss me.

So I told him…that my missing him isn’t just a wanting him type of feeling its…I need him. I told him I’m so happy when I’m with him. I told him that I feel like him missing me…is only a him wanting me…that he doesn’t miss me because he needs me. And he didn’t have any response to that. He didn’t say anything at all. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much. He makes me so happy on Saturdays. And Sundays – Fridays I’m just so lonely and depressed without him. I don’t have any friends to turn to…to go hang out with…all I have is him…and I feel like I’m hanging on by a thread with him. I feel like he’s letting go. He says he’s not. He says if he didn’t want to be with me then he wouldn’t. But I’m scared because all I truly have is him.