He Is Still On Dating Sites

I just found out today that my booyfriend is still on several dating sites, all of which show that he has been on that certain website that very day ! What am I supposed to do ? I deactivated/deleted all my account of this nature right in front of him. I asked him about it and his reaction was that he was very angry about me questioning him about it and now has not respnded to any emails or texts which I sent him earlier this afternoon. It has been 4 hours and I’m at a loss….

I was…well I am dating this man. We live two in a half hours away. We have been together One year and five months. It was the perfect relationship to start off with. He said he wanted to marry me, my family loved him…and it’s very difficult for my family to approve of anybody. SO I was on cloud nine. He said he was only four years older than I am.

He came up to see me every other weekend…and then it start to become every weekend…he even went on family vacation with me. Seven months into the relationship, I get an email on facebook. This person told me to open my eyes, he’s not who he says he is. He is older than me has a daughter my age and a little boy. I questioned him over and over, he said it wasn’t true. But then I told him some things about previous relationships and I told him that he just needed to be honest with me. Well, my nightmare was true.

He is 22 years older than me (and yes he looks pretty darn good for his age) he lied about his last name so I couldn’t look him up on the internet. He was married, not separated, still living with this woman, and had a little boy with her. I was devistated. My world as I knew it was over. We didn’t talk for about a month and I told him to be with his wife and work things out. He came to me and he showed me his divorce papers that were filed. He told me he loved me and he wanted to be with me.

too old for me

He doesn’t seem to miss me like I miss him. His divorce isn’t over yet. It’s been sicne June 2010 since he filed. And he’s struggling with custody issues and he is under a lot of stress. I want to be there for him. I want to take the stress away. I want to make him happy. But I’m finding it hard to do. We are going to have to go for a 3 week stretch without seeing each other…and it’s breaking my heart. I’m trying to figure out how I can get to see him. His response is…well babe there’s gonna be times where we’re gonna have to be apart. When he says that I feel like he doesn’t ever really miss me.

So I told him…that my missing him isn’t just a wanting him type of feeling its…I need him. I told him I’m so happy when I’m with him. I told him that I feel like him missing me…is only a him wanting me…that he doesn’t miss me because he needs me. And he didn’t have any response to that. He didn’t say anything at all. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much. He makes me so happy on Saturdays. And Sundays – Fridays I’m just so lonely and depressed without him. I don’t have any friends to turn to…to go hang out with…all I have is him…and I feel like I’m hanging on by a thread with him. I feel like he’s letting go. He says he’s not. He says if he didn’t want to be with me then he wouldn’t. But I’m scared because all I truly have is him.

I am at a stand still on what to do next.

I am in a one year relationship with a great guy, and everything was good until 2 weeks ago. Admittedly, I have been stressed and snippy with him. But, so has he. I just chalked it up to a high stress time. Well, last week, we started drifting apart. Not seeing each other as much, not having sex in 9 days,etc..

This is my dilemma. He gave me his FB password telling me I have nothing to hide 6 months ago. Something in my gut said to check it, which I have never did before. Well low and behold, I find 4 emails to 3 if his plutonic girlfriends saying that “he loves me” and “we r good” but will “loose me if I can’t handle his talking to other girl friends”.

I cried for hours as I felt betrayed and felt very disposable. Yesterday, I told him I felt something is off between us. I didnt tell him i read his email, but tried going around the bush to get the answers that i needed. He told me he loved me, wasn’t going anywhere and that we are both stressed out, but we are fine. I was ok with it last night, but today I looked again. He said to another girlfriend that he refused to move in now, but is happy. Later tonight I checked again, because while on the phone I heard him typing and asked and said he was FB a message.

What Do I Do Next

So now, of course I went into it again. Found he wrote another girl friend that now going spend some “me” time away when he doesn’t have his girls. So now I don’t get it. I said last night, if he wanted space, take it. But he told me to my face he didn’t want that, and now I read that he does. I am confused. He says he loves me and wants to be with me, but then I read this, and I question everything.

• Am I being used?
•  Am I getting cheated on?
• Do I even confront him?
• Should I be worried?

I really don’t know what to do. I love him very much and want to make it work, but I am very confused by the conflicting conversation we had and what he saying to his friends about us behind my back. He hasnt changed his password or deleted the messages, so I wonder if it’s innocent venting stress or something I should confront him on and be done…please help!!!

One of the things you can do is find a blog that contains divorce advice that can help you. The blog can be useful because it will have many different kinds of advice for many different situations. You will see that there may be other people who can post and talk about their own situations. This can be a great way to figure out what to do because you can use the experiences of other people to help you in your search for the next move you are going to make.

Another thing you can do is find a therapist to talk to without telling your spouse that you are considering the prospect of ending your marriage. You can explain to your therapist your reasons for divorce, and see if they think that you are on the right track. They may help you fix these issues within yourself so that you do not need to go through with the divorce itself. Or they may give you the strength to finally put your foot down and stick with your decision.

If you rush your choices too much, this could end up being quite problematic. You want to make sure that you are making the right choices from the beginning. One of the ways to do this is to find as much divorce advice as you can so that you do not make the incorrect choice or act too soon. You should talk to plenty of friends before you make a final choice and talk to a therapist as well if you possibly can.

The most important thing to do is realize that getting a divorce can be a very hard and difficult thing to do; but it is not impossible. You will have to fill out many different divorce forms before you can really actualize the process. You should always have someone to work with who can help assure you that you are making the right choice and who can also help you fill out the forms correctly. As long as you are sure you are making the right choice, you will be much happier in the end.

When you want to fill out the divorce papers, you should realize that it’s a great idea to wait a little while. You want to thoroughly assess your reasons for divorce before you finalize any decisions.

Very basically, I met this girl about 3 or 4 months ago, she is 30 and I am 29, but she has a boyfriend, he is 23. They have been together for about 1 year and have broken up 4 times already in the past, he is in Australia and we are in New Zealand, in about 2 weeks from today she will go back to her home country where her boyfriend will meet up with her there also, she will be there for about 1 month or so.

She has already admitted to me that she will definitely not marry him, but does not want to break up just yet as she wants to see him face to face first. She then might come back to New Zealand after the trip back home. We have been seeing each other quite frequently and have also slept together many times. Feelings are mutual and we are very comfortable together and enjoy our time together, she says that every time she sees me, she wants to go out and do something together, she also said that the first time she saw me that she felt comfortable and that she felt that the already knew me, we like to do the same things together ( i.e. we love to drink and be merry) and can be quite happy if not for this “boyfriend” situation.

So basically, she feels very guilty to her boyfriend every time we do something together or have sex etc, and of course these feelings are expected, but inevitably does cause arguments between us both (big ones, i.e. she hears gossip from coworkers about our relationship, that we are together and that we have slept together etc, and they know that she has a boyfriend) so this has made her feel that her friends might think the is a slag or just that she doesn’t want to look like one, even though we both cant help our feelings for each other, results in MASSIVE arguments and even ignoring me, taking me off her Facebook, not answering calls and texts etc as she says that her friends got the information from ME! Which is not entirely true, so she decided that we should remain friends in the meantime until she gets back, I agreed with her.

But as fate would have it, she calls me at home at 4am in the morning (drunk) and says she needed someone to talk to, she has done this on several occasions. Another thing that causes arguments between us is the fact that we behave and treat each other as if we are a couple when we are actually not, this also puts pressure on her, which is another reason why she wanted to be friends in the meantime.

We made up 2 days ago and I texted her after I got home but she never replied, which was very strange, she then replied that she had heard again from people that they know about us and she cant take it anymore and wants me to leave her alone now, out of shock, I drove down to her place and asked her to come out to talk about it, after a long text argument, she finally came down and we spoke in my car, but she had to leave before we could finish, she just got out the car and before she could close the door, I said, “can we finish talking about this later?” and her reply was, “not today” (in a soft voice), I just nodded my head with a slight sad look, but understanding. she then closed the door walked around the car to walk away from me, but then suddenly turned around and came at me with a hug through the window, she said softly in my ear, “I just want to be alone now” and started to walk away again.

I then said to her, “what does that mean?” She said that it means that she just wants to be alone for a while, I said OK. She left and I drove off. When I got home I sent her a small text saying that,” Everybody knows that you are a good girl, and that is a fact! Lets avoid this subject with other people in the future. I will be thinking of you…” And that’s it! So basically I understand what I want to be alone means but, I am concerned that she is going to leave me, because I really want things to work out between us, what are my chances here? What do I do besides waiting for her to talk to me again? SOMEONE, ANYONE, HELP!!!!!! Comments and advice from experienced people would be great!!

Note: I think it seems that she also may have a problem dealing with being friends, even though it was her idea, because she does have feelings for me and causes arguments because of her situation ( she has a boyfriend) and acting like boyfriend and girlfriend to each other causes problems (even though she is not mine and I am not hers) She has already said to me that she feels and can notice that I am not showing everything about myself to her and she wants to know me more, but I told her, because she is not my girlfriend, there are things that i cannot show her as much as would love to, but I still respect her boyfriend, her and their relationship, good or bad. I told her, if you were my girlfriend, then I can show you everything, but for now, I cannot

Moreover he also left HOOKAH when i told him not to have it anymore, its not good for your health. He was addicted to hookah. (all it happened after our break-up) He knows that i want him so badly. He too dedicated a song “main laut aaunga” which means that he’ll return to me. But how can i be so sure of that. He said this to me 2 months back. He is still with his new girlfriend.

He is very flirty type. I feel miserable. I really don’t know what to do next. Please suggest me the moves

Almost everyone treat jealousy as a sign of affection of a loved one, while actually, it isn’t.  It’s a sign of insecurity in relationships.

Why do we get jealous in the first place? It’s because we fear that our loved one will leave us and choose another.  That he had enough of you but you’re still not good enough for him.  And there are other reasons for insecurity in relationships that may be any of the following factors:

Lack of self confidence or self-esteem – Your partner may have flaws or incapacity that make her feel as an inadequate person.  She might not see the beauty on her own way. Again, nobody’s perfect, everyone has its own flaws. And this is one reality that you have to remind your partner with.

A bad track record of infidelity – Your partner may have known that you used to be a polygamous guy. Well, you can’t blame her for that, especially if she’s still seeing you glancing on other girls and have caught you doing things behind her back.

A lot of pretty faces – This universe can sometimes be heavenly when you see a lot of gorgeous men and women walking down the streets.  You can’t help but think, “Am I with the wrong one?” .
Some people seem to live by the mantra of “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”.  This can cause confusion in a relationship especially if you are in a long distance relationship or one where you work different shifts and don’t get a lot of time to be together.

To lessen your insecurity in relationships, you could try to make yourself look better, be a little bit vain. Learn to pamper and care for yourself more than you used to. If your partner sees people looking admiringly at you then they are going to realize they have to toe the line or they could get kicked to the touch line.

And most importantly, get rid of that negative perception you have of yourself. You are special, otherwise your partner wouldn’t have picked you in the first place.

When you feel good inside and out, you can face your lover with confidence and conviction that he would never have to leave your side.  It would also help if your partner can give a reassuring feeling by showing that he is truly committed to you and to the relationship.

Jealousy in a relationship will almost certainly destroy it little by little, when we were all teenagers it seemed normal to want to hold our boyfriend or girlfriend very close. You are taught from a young age to guard precious things and keep them close to you.

As you get older and your emotions mature then you can give your loved ones the freedome they need to grow. This shows maturity and if you grow together then there is no need for any insecurity.

Here’s for all the women seeking relationship advice.  Some people say that women are the ones carrying the success or failure of a relationship.  Why? It might be because sometimes they need to close their eyes to keep their man. But this shouldn’t always be the case (some would say it should NEVER be the case but I am trying to be realistic) and as women are now earning just as much as their men they do not need to stay around for the sake of income.

Women should not stay stuck in a relationship that they no longer enjoy.  Just because you think you love a person so much it does not mean you would have to take the hurts and the abuse of that relationship.  You need to know when enough is enough. There are different levels of misery of course, sometimes we all put up with stuff in our relationships but how much is too much.

This relationship advice for women intends to recover the dignity of some who had lost it.

Don’t allow yourself to be a second-woman. It is not morally right to love a married man, more so, to break a family. You deserve a man who can love you fully and not half-heartedly.

No matter what they may tell you you should never allow yourself to be the victim of

• Physical Abuse
• Emotional Abuse
• Mental abuse.

Relationship advice for women

Many women today, even celebrities are enduring instances of physical violence from those men who were supposed to love them. You could not turn on the TV or look at a magazine recently without seeing photos of Rhianna and Chris Brown.

Men are also becoming popular using hidden videos of sexual activities as blackmail. Women were long perceived to be weaklings. It’s high time to show that you can protect yourself from all these abuses. Fight for your safety, allow the law to implement them.

Don’t allow yourself to be a sugar-mommy. You tend to be compassionate especially for the man you love. How would you know that he was sticking with you for the same reason? If you want to help a person, don’t give him a fish, instead teach him how to fish.

There’s a clear, thick line between an unfortunate man and a lazy man.