Long Distance Relationship Advice
Keeping a long distance relationship involves sacrifice and challenges for both people involved in it. Here is some long distance relationship advice from someone who has actually lived it.
I was in a relationship with a guy in the Uk for 2 years, I live in the states. Maybe I should call him my husband as we have been married for 5 years now!
Sacrifice:-When you are in a relationship that spans many miles, possibly timezones and countries you don’t enjoy the benefits of being in a normal relationship.
Human companionship is something that can be quickly missed. You will need to contend with loneliness during special occasions like his or your birthday, anniversary, Valentine’s Day and more intensely during holidays, Christmas and New Year Eve.
Holidays and family events are when you normally see couples spending time together, exchanging hugs and kisses, laughing together, happy together. If you loved one is 7 timezones away and asleep at the moment then you can’t help but to feel envious of them.
Just be careful not to let your envy show through, it isn’t their fault that you love someone who doesn’t live locally.
Challenge:- Spending so much time apart drives you to put your best foot forward to make this relationship work. You will do everything to keep the fire burning, to ignore and surpass all the barriers between you. And that’s not easy to do, that’s why many long distance relationships don’t last, because it was easier to give up.
At one point in your life, you might have thought of ending this relationship. You might have sought your closest friends, asking for long distance relationship advice. You might have also search for long distance relationship advice from books, eBooks and throughout the web. But here’s one piece of advice that I’m sure would be helpful.
Think of the distance between you as giving you room to grow. This doesn’t mean that couples in a proximal relationship don’t grow of course but they also usually don’t have as much time on their own as you are going to.
Embrace the extra time and allow yourselves to do things that will allow you to grow. Because you don’t consume all of each other’s time, you’ll have more time to focus on other aspects of your life. Your world shouldn’t revolve only around his but you could use this time to learn new skills, read books that they have read and you haven’t, maybe even learn a new language, this is very relevant for those of you dating someone from a foreign country.
Accept this as a chance to have more time with your family, an opportunity to evolve yourself, by doing some things that you have long wanted to do. You can also make yourself busy with work. All these would be beneficial to you in the end.
There are a lot of things you can do to fill your “alone time” to prevent yourself from being in the downside of this kind of relationship. Just make sure that you’re not so busy enough to forget about the relationship.
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My boyfriend and I have been happily together for three years and six months, but all of a sudden my ex-boyfriend is contacting me through my email address. I do not have feelings for my ex-boyfriend anymore but he keeps on asking me if I would have sex with him, and I told him that I am in love with my boyfriend, but he still does not get the hint, what do I do? The other thing is he has some nerve to cheat on his girlfriend.
me and my ex partner got back together five months ago, after seperating two years before when our son was born. the relationship endend badly last time as he cheated on me time and time again and as much as i wanted to be with him i couldnt take it anymore. when we got back together he seemed like a different person altogether and i soon enough fell in love with him again, there was always doubt in my mind although i tried my hardest to forget the past. hes used a previous girlfriend for a place to live and i feared if he didnt cheat maybe he didnt really want to be here anyway. i soon fell pregnant and we decided to be a family again and was very happy, balancing time together and time apart. he showed me lots of affection which hed never done before and always told me how much he cared and whenever i was in doubt hed reasure me it was jus me and him. his ex that hed been with in the two years wed split was constantly trying to contact him and i jus put it down to her being jelous, hed shown me msgs shed sent asking why he wasnt with her but with me, and hed replied and shown me that he didnt want her but wanted me and his family. this weekend just gone the same girl had told me hed spent the night with her and me and him had a huge row, and he packed his stuff and left, i was heartbroken and after a few days wev decided to give it another go although hes refusing to come home and says he needs his space. i feel asthough in a relationship your supposed to take steps forward not back. we have seen eachother twice in the last seven days and its really hard for me to cope with. he tells me the one condition hell come home for is if i kick out my brother and his girlfriend who have been sleeping on my sofa for the last three months. i admit that they have been a huge strain on us but cant bare to see my brother homeless. please help me i cant bare to split up with him and want him to see what hes gonna loose he already has two other children from previous relationships and is 26years old.