Long Distance Relationship Advice
Long Distance Relationship Advice
Keeping a long distance relationship involves sacrifice and challenges for both people involved in it. Here is some long distance relationship advice from someone who has actually lived it.
I was in a relationship with a guy in the Uk for 2 years, I live in the states. Maybe I should call him my husband as we have been married for 5 years now!
Sacrifice:-When you are in a relationship that spans many miles, possibly timezones and countries you don’t enjoy the benefits of being in a normal relationship.
Human companionship is something that can be quickly missed. You will need to contend with loneliness during special occasions like his or your birthday, anniversary, Valentine’s Day and more intensely during holidays, Christmas and New Year Eve.
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Holidays and family events are when you normally see couples spending time together, exchanging hugs and kisses, laughing together, happy together. If you loved one is 7 timezones away and asleep at the moment then you can’t help but to feel envious of them.
Just be careful not to let your envy show through, it isn’t their fault that you love someone who doesn’t live locally.
Challenge:- Spending so much time apart drives you to put your best foot forward to make this relationship work. You will do everything to keep the fire burning, to ignore and surpass all the barriers between you. And that’s not easy to do, that’s why many long distance relationships don’t last, because it was easier to give up.
At one point in your life, you might have thought of ending this relationship. You might have sought your closest friends, asking for long distance relationship advice. You might have also search for long distance relationship advice from books, eBooks and throughout the web. But here’s one piece of advice that I’m sure would be helpful.
Think of the distance between you as giving you room to grow. This doesn’t mean that couples in a proximal relationship don’t grow of course but they also usually don’t have as much time on their own as you are going to.
Embrace the extra time and allow yourselves to do things that will allow you to grow. Because you don’t consume all of each other’s time, you’ll have more time to focus on other aspects of your life. Your world shouldn’t revolve only around his but you could use this time to learn new skills, read books that they have read and you haven’t, maybe even learn a new language, this is very relevant for those of you dating someone from a foreign country.
Accept this as a chance to have more time with your family, an opportunity to evolve yourself, by doing some things that you have long wanted to do. You can also make yourself busy with work. All these would be beneficial to you in the end.
There are a lot of things you can do to fill your “alone time” to prevent yourself from being in the downside of this kind of relationship. Just make sure that you’re not so busy enough to forget about the relationship.
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me and my ex partner got back together five months ago, after seperating two years before when our son was born. the relationship endend badly last time as he cheated on me time and time again and as much as i wanted to be with him i couldnt take it anymore. when we got back together he seemed like a different person altogether and i soon enough fell in love with him again, there was always doubt in my mind although i tried my hardest to forget the past. hes used a previous girlfriend for a place to live and i feared if he didnt cheat maybe he didnt really want to be here anyway. i soon fell pregnant and we decided to be a family again and was very happy, balancing time together and time apart. he showed me lots of affection which hed never done before and always told me how much he cared and whenever i was in doubt hed reasure me it was jus me and him. his ex that hed been with in the two years wed split was constantly trying to contact him and i jus put it down to her being jelous, hed shown me msgs shed sent asking why he wasnt with her but with me, and hed replied and shown me that he didnt want her but wanted me and his family. this weekend just gone the same girl had told me hed spent the night with her and me and him had a huge row, and he packed his stuff and left, i was heartbroken and after a few days wev decided to give it another go although hes refusing to come home and says he needs his space. i feel asthough in a relationship your supposed to take steps forward not back. we have seen eachother twice in the last seven days and its really hard for me to cope with. he tells me the one condition hell come home for is if i kick out my brother and his girlfriend who have been sleeping on my sofa for the last three months. i admit that they have been a huge strain on us but cant bare to see my brother homeless. please help me i cant bare to split up with him and want him to see what hes gonna loose he already has two other children from previous relationships and is 26years old.
Hey I have a relationship problem. This girl I liked played me twice. She doesn’t realize my pain. She feeds off it and yet she pretends everything is all good and when I try to tell her how I feel I become the bad guy. When I first met her we started seeing each other not necessarily dating but getting close to it. One night after a few dates she holds my hands, looks me in the eyes and says Dylan do you know how much I like you. The next day she texts me I was so happy and then her text said I wasn’t ready to tell you all that. She had lied to my face, and she ignored me at school the whole day.. Finally all the conflict blew off and she says Dylan I still like you and asks me on a date that upcoming Friday. I agree and remember that during our conflict my best-friend told me that the girl liked someone. In which I called her and asked her about it she explains that the guy was simple a brother to her nothing more. Relieved I got off the phone and was happier. Later that night she was asked out by the guy and wasn’t going to tell me. Their dating I found out through a friend… She doesn’t think she has done anything wrong, yet she has ripped a part of my heart.
If you really had NO feelings about the ex, you wouldn’t have answered at all…..I’m not saying you’re in love, maybe just flattered….an ego booster.
I have a crush, and we got into a fight this past weekend and i pretended to be my friend texting him from my phone and he said i was annoying and that he was mad because he heard me tell someone i didnt like him, but i think im in love with him, but now im afraid our freindship and our chances of ever dating (he likes\ed me back) are ruined and i don’t know what on earth to do.
hi i am really confussed at the moment.my partner and i have been together for 3 and a half years and have a daughter togther who is 1.he asked me 4 days before christmas if i would like to move to qld i said yeah thinking he wasnt being so serious.and eventually he moved up and is living with his uncle.its been nearly 3 months since his left im finding it really hard to cope without him we argue all the time.when i ask him to come and visit he said he will never come back to sydney.now im in 2 minds whether to move there like he planned on or stay here.please help me
@Viviana Valeriano:
As a note, you are in control of any romantic situation you get involved with. The circumstance is your choice. Do you want to stay faithful to your boyfriend or cheat and sleep with your ex. The core of this is your own moral integrity. Although, if you cheat on your boyfriend, sleep with your ex, mess around with an involved or married man; then it is safe to say you have no core moral values and in the end you have forsaken any relationships you have become involved in. Nonetheless the decision is always yours, it would behoove you to choose wisely.
@Viviana Valeriano:
i think you should tell him-your ex, that uve moved on and you dont need him anymore;if he insists,then tell your boyfriend! goodluck
@Viviana Valeriano:
Just ignore him. You made your point that you’re in love with your boyfriend. Try to block him in your emails so that you won’t receive any of his messages and he can’t sent you any messages. Because if your boyfriend for 3 years and 6 months finds out about it, he might get mad and put your relationship at risks. Your ex is not worth your time. If you’re happy with you current/present boyfriend, then focus on him.
@becca:
Hi becca. I know its been tough but you really have to think about your future. What makes you happy. I know its hard because he’s letting you choose between him and your brother. I know you wanna help your brother but is your brother helping himself and helping you? How old is your brother? You said he has a girlfriend so it means he’s old enough and knows how to be responsible. He should learn to be independent and stop depending on you. He should understand that you have a family of your own and your trying to save your family. If your brother loves you, he will understand. I know you’re trying to be a good sister to him. Believe me… I also have a younger brother. We can be there for them and guide them but not all the time. We should learn to let go of them and let them learn on their own. Even his girlfriend is not your responsibility. Just make him understand. about the guy, if he also loves you, he should also understand your situation with your brother. You should all talk about it and compromise. First you have to solve your issues with your brother then your guy. What was the reason why your guy wanted to kick your brother out of the house? maybe your guy is just concern about you and that wanted your brother to live his life but not depending on you. Family will always be family. Even if you guys fight all the time, but eventually you’ll still be a family but true love? only comes once. So think what really makes you happy. Think who makes you happy and who is important to you.
Ask him if what he said to your “friend” is true . & if it is then maybe its time to move on because why would you want to be with somebody that thinks your annoying ? you need someone who likes you for who you are .
This a great advice to me since am involved in a long distance relationship. but what gives me alot of in this is that i have got enough space to concentrate in my studies and him on his job. Though at times i miss him a lot.
Hey Becca,
I understand your problem completely and also that it’s tough for you to quit the relationship with your partner. But let me be straight enough, this man is just fooling around not only with you but with every lady he is coming accross.
It’s high time he needs to understand that women have hearts, they are not seasonal fruits that you can pick and throw them anytime you want.
Moreover, he is just 26 years old and may be is too young to understand his loss at this point of time. Well parallely you are young too i believe, and it’s time you should move ahead keeping the past in it’s own quiet and silent place.
Please give yourself a day, may be a week and then decide on the positive side. You said you have a two kids. Do you realy want them to grow up like the young man you are with ?? No right ?
Then please don’t give it a new start, and end it all.
Another thing, if he can ask you to leave your brother homeless ; then may be someday he will find someway to leave you the same as well. Hence Beware !!
Dylan, this girl seems insecure with herself…. she may not have figured out her true fate yet…. I know what it feels like, to get your heart ripped out like that….. stay strong! She may just be trying to make drama, some girls do that. Dont worry…. if she has the nerve to cheat than maybe shes not right for you….. Just trust that your true love is out there somewhere…. You will find her i promise…. you gotta have faith.
Im in the same situation. Just tell him how you feel you wont regret it….. thats all he wants to know…. if you are in love with him than let him know he may feel the same way… its worth it in the end! Good Luck!!
hi i think you should just ignore him. Hes hurt you too much….. Even thought he says hes not cheating he may still be…… Its almost like a addiction once you start you cant stop…… I really hope he isnt cheating though…….
When I was in the Armed Forces, my girlfriend and I were far apart. The most important thing to remember in a long distance relationship is loyalty to each other. If you truly have love for one another, then the letters, phone calls and emails will suffice until you can be together.