Long Distance Relationship Advice

Keeping a long distance relationship involves sacrifice and challenges for both people involved in it. Here is some long distance relationship advice from someone who has actually lived it.

I was in a relationship with a guy in the Uk for 2 years, I live in the states. Maybe I should call him my husband as we have been married for 5 years now!

Sacrifice:-When you are in a relationship that spans many miles, possibly timezones and countries you don’t enjoy the benefits of being in a normal relationship.

Human companionship is something that can be quickly missed. You will need to contend with loneliness during special occasions like his or your birthday, anniversary, Valentine’s Day and more intensely during holidays, Christmas and New Year Eve.

Holidays and family events are when you normally see couples spending time together, exchanging hugs and kisses, laughing together, happy together.  If you loved one is 7 timezones away and asleep at the moment then you can’t help but to feel envious of them.

Just be careful not to let your envy show through, it isn’t their fault that you love someone who doesn’t live locally.

Challenge:- Spending so much time apart drives you to put your best foot forward to make this relationship work.  You will do everything to keep the fire burning, to ignore and surpass all the barriers between you.  And that’s not easy to do, that’s why many long distance relationships don’t last, because it was easier to give up.

At one point in your life, you might have thought of ending this relationship.  You might have sought your closest friends, asking for long distance relationship advice.  You might have also search for long distance relationship advice from books, eBooks and throughout the web. But here’s one piece of  advice that I’m sure would be helpful.

Think of the distance between you as giving you room to grow.  This doesn’t mean that couples in a proximal relationship don’t grow of course but they also usually don’t have as much time on their own as you are going to.

Embrace the extra time and allow yourselves to do things that will allow you to grow. Because you don’t consume all of each other’s time, you’ll have more time to focus on other aspects of your life.  Your world shouldn’t revolve only around his but you could use this time to learn new skills, read books that they have read and you haven’t, maybe even learn a new language, this is very relevant for those of you dating someone from a foreign country.

Accept this as a chance to have more time with your family, an opportunity to evolve yourself, by doing some things that you have long wanted to do.  You can also make yourself busy with work.  All these would be beneficial to you in the end.

There are a lot of things you can do to fill your “alone time” to prevent yourself from being in the downside of this kind of relationship.  Just make sure that you’re not so busy enough to forget about the relationship.